One of the worst things we as women do to our men is something I call ‘defining their reality’. We don't even know we're doing it and it gets us in so much trouble.
It looks something like this “because you did X it must mean Y”.
Here’s an example; Gina and Rob were in my office, they’d had a better week but Gina quickly started to get upset “you didn’t even give me a card yesterday for Valentine’s day, that’s how much you care for me!” Rob didn’t say anything, he just looked at Gina but by the look on his face I could tell he was angry. After a long silence I asked “What’s going on for you right now Rob?”. “Last year we had a horrible Valentine’s day, I’d upset her by not writing enough in the card I got for her and the meal we paid way too much for was awful. Gina was so upset, said she’d rather just forget about Valentine’s day as it was often such a...
These days so many women get caught up in the duel demands of work and running a house that they forget how to do something that’s so fundamental in helping them get support from the man by their side.
How can something so obvious be so easy to forget!?!
This short video will tell you
· exactly what it is
· the ways it affects us that we’re not even aware of
· and what to do about it.
Don't beat yourself up : -) It's human nature, we’re so quick to forget what we most need to remember.
If you want more information on the 5 positives to every negative that I breifly mention in this video (which is vital to the success of any relationship) it's what I'm going to make my next vlog about so please stay tuned or sign up for my newsletter and you'll receive it automatically.
Until next time; keep it real.
With light and love,